Authoritative parenting can help shape a child into a happy, well adjusted adult who can contribute to society in a positive manner. These top 5 parenting tips can help, and constitute those that experts agree have the highest impact on child development. Don't worry, this has nothing to do with 'teaching your 6 month old how to read' or 'helicopter parenting', in fact, one of the first tips is just the opposite!
Diana Baumrind is known for her research on parenting styles. She describes Authoritative Parents as 'just right'. It is a style of parenting that relies on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment.
Parents are more aware of a child's feelings and capabilities and support the development of a child's autonomy within reasonable limits.
It might be a surprise but our Number 1 in the Top 5 parenting tips is the simplest but maybe the hardest to do.
Relax And Enjoy Parenting!
Modern parenting has become an increasingly stressful job, with high expectations. Hundreds of experts giving advice on 'what you need to do' to have a happy child. This has led to a generation of parents that scarcely have time to enjoy their kids. They are so busy trying to 'be a perfect parent'. Try to make sure you take time to just stop and smell the roses (or new baby smell). Make the time laugh with them, play with them, cry, joke around, and do not take life too seriously. Before you know it they'll be grown and gone.
Shower them With Love. Believe it or not there is no way to 'spoil with too much love', shower your kids with love. An abundance of Hugs, kisses, tickles and lots of laughs is always a good thing. Be a good finder and compliment them when they make an effort even if they fail. This is one of your most important jobs as a parent, give your children a home that is full of love, positive thinking and laughter.
Listen To Your Children. Listening to your children is one of the most important habits to form from early one. I know it might be difficult to stop and listen to your 3 year old who wants to tell you all about Dora the explorer or what Nina said in school when you have so much to do. But listening, really listening is building a foundation of trust that will serve you well once they are older. If you want your preteen or teen to talk to you begin building a relationship that involves listening to them from very early on.
Allow And Encourage Independent Thinking. It might be exasperating to have a 3 year old with an opinion on everything (I know, mine did). Evidence shows that children who are allowed to form and express their opinions are more likely to fend off negative peer pressure as teenagers. Think of it as teaching your child to make decisions. For example start with what shirt they like and what hair cut they would like. Progress to more important things later in their development. This will give them practice in forming a definite opinion, expressing it, and sticking to it.
Know Your Kids And Parent Accordingly. Not all children are the same, and it's important that you know your children and give them the type of parenting they need. Children that have a more sensitive nature will need a gentler hand when disciplining. They may respond better to positive reinforcement. Children who are more strong willed might need a stronger tone in order to take you seriously. Knowing your kids is essential to effective parenting.
These top 5 parenting tips are key to raising well-adjusted, happy children. They can also help make your parenting life easier and less stressful.
Please feel free to suggest your own tips.