Family Life Confidence Tips For Teenagers
Family Life may not too easy for teenagers;
they are growing up fast and starting to become independent from parents. They face pressure in many forms including; acceptance into peer groups, their bodies are changing, they start thinking about sex, worry about acne and exams. It is not surprising that they have self-confidence problems and of notions of in adequateness.
These family-life.eu tips could help improve your teenager’s self-confidence:
Teen confidence tips 1. Broaden their horizons.
Endeavour to get your teenager involved with clubs and after school activities. These are a great way to encourage your teen to learn and grow. "It will broaden your horizons" as my own mother often said. Try to find something to match their interest that will help them develop that interest more. As they become more knowledgeable about the subject and comfortable with the other members of the group their self confidence will grow.
These family-life.eu tips could help improve your teenager’s self-confidence:
Teen confidence tips 1. Broaden their horizons.
Endeavour to get your teenager involved with clubs and after school activities. These are a great way to encourage your teen to learn and grow. "It will broaden your horizons" as my own mother often said. Try to find something to match their interest that will help them develop that interest more. As they become more knowledgeable about the subject and comfortable with the other members of the group their self confidence will grow.
Teen confidence tips 2. Trust your intuition.
Teens may well need help with all sorts of adolescent problems and the last person they would ask for help may well be you, their parent! Do not be too offended. They do not yet have the self confidence to ask you for help but it might be as simple as they are just too embarrassed. Being a parent all you may be able to do is trust your intuition to leave them to it or get involved if you think it is a serious problem. It is a difficult call. Try to help the best you can without questioning and enforcing too many conditions.
Teen confidence tips 3. Make the time.
As a parent you must try not to overreact in situations with a teenager. If everything is a big deal with you, your teenager may think everything they do is wrong. This will really knock their self confidence. Try to take things calmly and talk to them but not at them. Continually reinforce by your kind words and more importantly your actions that you will always be there for them to talk about anything. They may never take you up on the offer but they will feel comforted that they can if they need to.
If they do want to talk about something take the time do it there and then. If it is really not an appropriate setting make other arrangements for a talk, somewhere you both feel at ease and make sure you do turn up.
Teen confidence tips 4. Encourage positive’Self-talk’
Self Talk is the flow of thoughts that starts running through our minds when we are not particularly engaged if having to think about something else. It is passive thinking that happens when you reflect on or worry about a situation or event that has happened or will happen.
If this type of thinking is negative it can lead to stress, low self esteem and loss of self confidence. All the "what if's and I should have's can build up to make things seem a lot worse than they really are. I am pretty sure that has happened to us all at one time or other.
Positive affirmations are a way we can train our minds to use positive self-talk and boost not only your teenagers self confidence but your own as well. It is a very simple technique that may seem uncomfortable or silly at first.
The process consists of repeating out loud or silently positive statements. By putting these new healthy positive statements into your mind they will sooner or later replace those debilitating ones that have managed to creep into your self talk.
Try encouraging your teenager to use positive affirmations when they think about themselves and start feeling low. For example when they are feeling nervous about a situation use the positive statements "I am strong and confident" or "I can do this".
If they are feeling self conscious about the way they look ask them to replace thoughts like "I look awful today" with "I do look nice today"
There is no right amount of times to say the affirmations, use them when and as often
as you need to. Many people who do use affirmations do like to start the day them.
"Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will"
- Zig Ziglar
Teen confidence tips 4. Be Quick To Encourage And Slow To Criticise.
Your words of encouragement are essential for your teenagers self confidence. They are an affirmation of your love, respect and confidence in them.
I am sure you can find many opportunities during the day to let them hear words from you like:
“You can do it”
“Well done”
“I am pleased with you”
“Wow you are looking smart today”,
or even just “Thanks for doing that”.
One simple wholesome comment from someone they love and respect instantly increases their feeling of self worth just as surely as harmful spiteful words would drag them down.
Making the effort with these simple compliments keeps the all important communication lines open, positive and healthy, encourages good behaviour, increases their feeling of self worth which will improve your teenagers self confidence.
"Start your child's day with love and encouragement and end the day the same way" Zig Ziglar
Teen confidence tips 3. Make the time.
As a parent you must try not to overreact in situations with a teenager. If everything is a big deal with you, your teenager may think everything they do is wrong. This will really knock their self confidence. Try to take things calmly and talk to them but not at them. Continually reinforce by your kind words and more importantly your actions that you will always be there for them to talk about anything. They may never take you up on the offer but they will feel comforted that they can if they need to.
If they do want to talk about something take the time do it there and then. If it is really not an appropriate setting make other arrangements for a talk, somewhere you both feel at ease and make sure you do turn up.
Teen confidence tips 4. Encourage positive’Self-talk’
Self Talk is the flow of thoughts that starts running through our minds when we are not particularly engaged if having to think about something else. It is passive thinking that happens when you reflect on or worry about a situation or event that has happened or will happen.
If this type of thinking is negative it can lead to stress, low self esteem and loss of self confidence. All the "what if's and I should have's can build up to make things seem a lot worse than they really are. I am pretty sure that has happened to us all at one time or other.
Positive affirmations are a way we can train our minds to use positive self-talk and boost not only your teenagers self confidence but your own as well. It is a very simple technique that may seem uncomfortable or silly at first.
The process consists of repeating out loud or silently positive statements. By putting these new healthy positive statements into your mind they will sooner or later replace those debilitating ones that have managed to creep into your self talk.
Try encouraging your teenager to use positive affirmations when they think about themselves and start feeling low. For example when they are feeling nervous about a situation use the positive statements "I am strong and confident" or "I can do this".
If they are feeling self conscious about the way they look ask them to replace thoughts like "I look awful today" with "I do look nice today"
There is no right amount of times to say the affirmations, use them when and as often
as you need to. Many people who do use affirmations do like to start the day them.
"Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will"
- Zig Ziglar
Teen confidence tips 4. Be Quick To Encourage And Slow To Criticise.
Your words of encouragement are essential for your teenagers self confidence. They are an affirmation of your love, respect and confidence in them.
I am sure you can find many opportunities during the day to let them hear words from you like:
“You can do it”
“Well done”
“I am pleased with you”
“Wow you are looking smart today”,
or even just “Thanks for doing that”.
One simple wholesome comment from someone they love and respect instantly increases their feeling of self worth just as surely as harmful spiteful words would drag them down.
Making the effort with these simple compliments keeps the all important communication lines open, positive and healthy, encourages good behaviour, increases their feeling of self worth which will improve your teenagers self confidence.
"Start your child's day with love and encouragement and end the day the same way" Zig Ziglar
